my husband wants to go to the military for weapons and i am totally against it is that wrong?
November 29th, 2009 by eranio
we are ready to start a family and i don’t feel he needs to go because of that and because i am against it. there are good qualities in going regarding education, and finances….but, sending money to take care of a child is not helping raise it. i think there is more to a marriage and family besides providing.
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November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 am
I would not consider it wrong. You are a person and are free to have your opinions. This one differs from your husband’s, so now the two of you need to talk about it and come to a compromise (assuming you both want to keep the marriage going).
November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 am
That you are against your husband fulfilling a dream, yes. For him to want to join for the weapons, not necessarily, but that would get old after a while, and if that is the only reason for joining, it is a less than satisfactory one. (Then again, others join just for the benefits, so who am I to judge, eh?)
November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 am
I would say it depends on the reasoning for your being against
November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 am
If your against him going to the military, yes. There are many benefits and a great experience with the military. But if your just against weapons then no.
November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 am
Why does your husband want to go into the military for weapons? Just so he can play with the nifty guns and toys that go boom and bang? I would question the maturity of someone who’s reason for wanting to join the military is because of the weapons. So, in that case, maybe he is wrong and you are right. I think he seriously needs to look inside himself and determine in all reality why exactly he wants to join the military. If it’s just for the guns, then he’s going to find the training and daily life in the military too hard and cry to get out before his commitment expires.
On the same hand, you need to look deep inside yourself and determine why YOU are against his joining. Depending on his job classification, he could be home more than he is away.
Does he have a good job that will support that family you are ready to start by itself once you become pregnant with child #1 and can nolonger work for a minimum of 3 to 4 months? Or, are you independently wealthy and don’t really need to worry about money?
There is much more to a marriage and family than providing, but I have to ask, would you rather have a couple kids and your husband home with you every day and be homeless and destitute, or have him maybe be away every now and then, sometimes for long periods of time and sometimes for just a couple weeks, but have a decent home to raise those kids in? Plus the medical, dental and optical benefits, the cheaper food and luxury items on base, etc?
November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 am
I know a guy that joined the army to use weapons and to fight and kill…all that violence. Now that he has returned he has PSTD and is traumatized by how many people he killed. Even kids that had bombs strapped to them…